I am a mother, I am a wife, I am a daughter, I am a sister, I am a friend and I am white. And I am anti-racist.
I was a bit hesitant on whether or not to share this blog post. It started off being a diary of sorts to gather thoughts, feelings and findings in my research this week. Part of me wanted to share my thoughts and the resources I have found helpful with you guys. While the other part of me was scared sh!tless. I am scared something would offend someone or come off the wrong way, when that is always the furthest from what my intentions are.
But then I read something on Instagram that said..
“The reality is that sometimes your good intentions will not be seen as good intentions for everyone. We’re not giving out good intuition awards, we’re fighting for justice. You will get criticized along the way, but that does not mean you give up.” – Candace Reels @femalecollective
Call me oblivious or silly or what but treating everyone equally has been something that I have been taught since from a very young age. I have never thought to treat someone differently based off of their race or ethnicity or sexual preference. I went to a relatively diverse high school, I have lived in an urban setting for 6 years now and I don’t for a second judge someone off of their color. I am not a racist, but until recently I didn’t ever question if that was enough. But now I can confidentially say that it isn’t. I am anti-racist.
To hear these stories of people like George Floyd, Emerald Black and Breonna Taylor (and more..) pains me. It gives me chills to think that people are treated with such disrespect based off of the color of their skin.
As a community, it is our responsibility to advocate and speak up at a time like this. I don’t want my children and grand children and so on to live in a society where someone is judged off their color or religion or whatever it is. And while not being racist may come naturally to many of us, there are still many things left to learn and A LOT to do to make the world a better place.
The last week, I have muted my usual content over on my feed and stories. I have been doing a lot of talking, reading, listening, learning and observing what is going on in our country. I personally have a lot of work to do and while I know you guys come to me for “healthy recipes”, I also share the struggles and vulnerabilities that are going on as well. Just because I am easing my way into sharing recipes again, does not mean I am not doing the work each and everyday. There is more to this than sharing social media posts and following more diversity on your feed. It is someone to start but there isn’t a quick fix to this massive systemic problem in our country.
Our nation and communities are hurting right now. It is time that we all speak up and have these uncomfortable conversations and be aware of our actions. And I am committed to do what I can to help fight for racial justice and equality for the good of mankind. Even when I start to share more of the “usual” content on here, please know that this doesn’t mean I’m not thinking of the current events. This doesn’t mean it is forgotten. I am doing the work here with my family and I hope that the resources below I have gathered can also help this community unite even more and help our country be a welcoming, loving and accepting place for everyone. This is by no means everything we can do and every resource..just a few I have been using over the last week and wanted to share. Please also share anything you have found helpful in the comments.
Podcasts to listen to:
- The Daily – they have been having daily episodes come out that have been super informative. I listen every morning.
- 1619 The NY Times
- Justice in America
- Code Switch
- Call Your Girlfriend
- Pod Save The People
A few places to donate:
- Georgie Floyd Memorial Fund: This memorial fund is established to cover funeral and burial expenses, mental and grief counseling, lodging and travel for all court proceedings, and to assist Floyd’s family in the days to come as they continue to seek justice for George.
- The Conscious Kid: All donations made here go to a dedicated fund for us to get children’s books from our list of “41 Children’s Books to Support Conversations on Race, Racism, and Resistance” into classrooms across the country.
- The Loveland Foundation: Loveland Foundation is committed to showing up for communities of color in unique and powerful ways, with a particular focus on mental health for Black women and girls.
- Minnesota Freedom Fund: The Minnesota Freedom Fund is a community based nonprofit that combats the harms of incarceration by paying bail for low-income individuals who cannot. The Minnesota Freedom Fund has raised $20m and is asking that future donations be routed to Black Visions Collective and Reclaim The Block.
- National Bail Out: National Bail Out is a Black-led and Black-centered collective of abolitionist organizers, lawyers and activists building a community-based movement to support and end systems of pretrial detention and ultimately mass incarceration.
- Bail Project: The Bail Project is a national nonprofit organization that pays bail for people in need, reuniting families and restoring the presumption of innocence.Their goal is to secure freedom for as many people as possible and fuel momentum for equal justice.
- Black Lives Matter: BLM is a movement and ongoing fight to end state-sanctioned violence, liberate Black people, and end white supremacy forever.
- Every Mother Counts: Every Mother Counts works to make pregnancy and childbirth safe for every mother, everywhere. We raise awareness, invest in solutions and mobilize action.
- Campaign Zero: Campaign Zero is a police reform campaign which proposes research-based policy solutions to end police brutality in America.
What to read:
- Black feminist thought
- I’m still here
- The day you begin
- Same same but different
- Eloquent rage: a black feminist discovers her superpower
- How to be antiracist
- I know why the caged bird sings
- Sister outsider
- The Fire Next Time
What to watch:
- American Son
- Dear White People
- See You Yesterday
- When They See Us
- If Beale Street Could Talk
- The Hate U Give
What to read/watch with kids:
What to sign:
- Justice for Emerald Black: this story was horrifying to read. I can’t even type it without getting teary eyed.
- Justice for George Floyd
- Color of Change
- Breonna Taylor
- Ahmaud Arbery
- Register to vote
- Check in on your black friends, family, colleagues, anyone in your life
- Educate and read and educate and read and listen and learn
- Share the resources that have helped you with others via social media
- Support the businesses owned by POC
- Ask questions, be open minded and have this uncomfortable conversations
- Know that this isn’t an overnight fix or one week. This will take time.
This is only a starting point. WE as a community will be better, mindful and continue to learn. This doesn’t end after a week of seeing social media posts.
I love you all!